How do you want to live your life?

Give it to your children

I recently read a very interesting piece of article that I would like to share with everyone. Before I taint your mind by giving you my take on this topic; I am going to let you read this piece first and have a think about it yourself. Here goes:

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair-Get used to it!

Rule 2 : The world does not care about your self-esteem. The world expects you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait til you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they call it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parent’s fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rainforest from the parasites of your parents’ generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give away as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is not real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

So, how many of these points can you relate to and agree on? I must say I really agree with what he said! Sometimes, we do have to give our children a dose of reality. True, they may or may not ‘get’ it but we can at least try. In this way, they will not get a nasty shock when they begin their work life. Like I always said, we do underestimate what our children can understand. They are more IT savvy these days, so why can’t we assume that they will be able to understand these concepts as well?

Take a few moments and think about this now, are you really doing the younger generation a favour by not teaching them everything they need to know about their future? Preparing them for their work life through education is only one aspect of preparing them for the future. There are so much more we can impart to them. Everything takes time and patience. If I may present it to you in a different angle; imparting our wisdom to them is one of the reasons why we experience them. In this way, we can help them avoid certain roadblocks in life that we came across ourselves. Make sense? I hope that I have not confused you too much. But you know what? As long as you have your children’s interests in mind; you can never go wrong.

Happy parenting!


reality check

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Review and regroup

I decided to post on this topic today because just this week alone, I had 2 different people mentioned this to me. There are times in our lives when we feel lost and unsure of our future or what steps we should be taking. So, what do we do? Or what can we do?

A very good friend of mine shared something she read by Martha Beck. If I understood her correctly; the essence of it all is this; sometimes we feel overwhelmed with what life throws at us. Some of us take a more pro-active approach to it and launch into whatever projects that lands at our feet. Many times, we fail to achieve what we hope to; not because of the lack in passion or inappropriate use of method. Instead, we fail to recognise if that is what we really want to do and end up even more confused and burnt out. I am very guilty of this; I am so afraid of missing any opportunities that I say yes to every proposal and ultimately tire myself out before I even reach my first checkpoint.

So, the point that I am aiming at today is this: if you are at a crossroad and are not sure of what you should be doing. Here is something you might want to try: According to Martha Beck, one of the ways is to walk into a bookshop. Hang on a minute, I am not asking you to go and buy a self-help book. I am saying there is a good chance that you will wonder to the section that interest you the most. If you are too lazy to go to the mall, sit down and think about which section of the bookshop you visit most when you do wonder into a bookshop? You can start your new ‘career’ or life goal search there.

Now, stay with me on this one. Just the other day, I was in a lecture on life-span development with a very grounded and humourous lecturer. Something she shared that evening jumped out at me. She said that many times when people want to reinvent themselves; be it because of a mid-life crisis or the result of a traumatic life event. People usually return to their childhood dreams. Let’s say you have always wanted to be a pilot but never made it there. And at 50 years old, you are successful but still feel that something is missing in your life; perhaps the thought of getting your pilot license might have crossed your mind. Then, maybe, you might want to consider going for that pilot license.

I believe that everyone should be doing what they love, but unfortunately the world does not function that way. But that is not to say that you cannot be happy because you are not doing your dream job. This is why people have hobbies which they love. Anyway, the topic today is not about whether your job is linked to your happiness. That is something else we can talk about another day.

Today, I hope to share these little tips with you; in the event that you feel lost and are in need of some direction. Try going to a bookstore and see where your heart takes you. Or think back on some of your childhood dreams, interests or ambitions. These are good places to start.

Good luck finding yourself again and remember; it is never too late and life is not meant to be easy. Decide on what you want to do and hold on to it like a bull-dog terrier. Start with something you love; at the very least, you have passion to rely on.


find your joy

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