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Dealing with challenging times

I cannot even remember the last time I posted something. It was so long ago and if we are all honest with ourselves; time slip us by if we are not careful. We tend to the more immediate and seemingly more urgent matters and forget to take care of our souls. What do I mean by taking care of our souls? To me, it means to always remember to do things that we love and more importantly stay true to who we are. In the past few months, I have learnt many things and I will share them with you in time to come. Today, I would like to draw your attention to something that a good friend shared with me:

“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, and kindness. What we choose to emphasis in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something.” – Howard Zinn

As we all know, life is not a bed of roses and we face challenges more often than we prefer. Some of us see closed doors as a dead-end whilst the rest of us see it as an opportunity to practise our creativity. Which category do you belong to? Do you give up when things do not go your way? Or do you push on because you believe that you will reach your goal eventually? I find that in such pivotal moments, the most important question you should ask yourself is this: “Do I really want this? Am I prepared to keep pushing?” I noticed that people fail to achieve their goals because their answer is no to the above 2 questions. They simply stop trying and therefore do not get to where they want.

Then how does the rest of us reach our goal? Here is where the quote by Howard Zinn comes in. We keep the hope alive, we hold on to the believe that it will happen. Yes, I can see you roll your eyes. Like yeah….as if it is that easy. It can be because all you need to do is to choose to hold on to your dream. But I must also add that our parents and the people we meet in our lives also play a very important part. Lucky for me, I grew up with a mother who believes in all possibilities. And in the years after her passing, I was blessed to meet people who continue to share my values and nurtured it with me. So, to the parents who are reading this post, besides giving your children all the love and gadgets you can afford; give them the power of hope and believe. Armed with these 2 values, they will have endless possibilities.

So, what really inspired this post today? I am currently at the crossroad of my life. It seemed that I am lost in a desert where all I can see is an endless span of sand, but I know that this desert has an end. I just need to push forward, one step at a time. I hope to encourage those who are lost in their own desert to not give up hope. It may seem endless what you are facing and everything seemed to be telling you that it is time to throw in the towel. But if it is what you really want then focus on what your heart is telling you and ignore the noises around you that is distracting you. It is never foolish to hope. The very basis of human resilience is to have hope, without it life would be frightening and meaningless.

 

to be hopeful in bad times

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