Sophrosyne

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Prescription: Time with friends

on September 21, 2012

Everyone faces different types of resistence and difficulties everyday. I often find comfort in the company of my friends. Take a moment to consider my next statement: Every friend you have meet your different needs. Are you aware of that? I am sure unconsciously we all do; that is why on some days we have the urge to see a particular friend. When I need a kick up my bum; I know exactly who to call. And if I just want some TLC; I will call upon someone else.

There is a reason why we have friends of different personalities; they meet our different needs at various times. And if you think about it; there are specific times when we gravitate towards specific people.

The point of this post is twofold:

(1) when we are busy and stressed; we thought that the best thing to do is to focus on the goal at hand to ‘get the job done’. Therefore we make the mature and adult decision; cancel the dinner plan with a good friend, stay at home and finish the work. Unfortunately, that does nothing for our mental wellbeing. In case I get misquoted for persuading my readers to ditch work to go out and play. I am suggesting that if the task is not too pressing or life-dependent. Allow yourself a break; take the time to go out and meet your friends. You will be surprised how good you feel after. If you are super busy; a quick coffee will suffice.

(2) In order to keep your friendship alive; effort needs to be made. You do not only see them whenever you need them. See them because it is important to maintain the friendship. It is a give and take relationship. Rest assured that whatever you give will come back. If not, then you have to examine the reasons behind the imbalance (that is if you are really bothered by it).

I personally find spending time with my pals really therapeutic; even if we are just sitting around doing nothing. Make time to catch up; it is well worth the effort.

 


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