Sophrosyne

How do you want to live your life?

John Lennon’s ambition

on October 19, 2012

I particularly like this story because consist of such simple logic. It made me realise that life is indeed simple; we complicate it. Read on to know what I mean:

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I want to be when I grew up. T wrote down that I wanted to be ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. And I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon

Isn’t it so true? We are constantly in search of meaning in life so that this meaning can be translated into happiness. So in essence, what we want is simply happiness. If so, then why do we need to possess the latest gadget or the biggest car before we can declare ourselves ‘happy’? One might argue that it is the possession of such items that create the sense of satisfaction and happiness. But aren’t we making it hard on ourselves? I am not saying that being happy means to stop pursuing our dreams and material wants. I am merely suggesting that those should be the icing on the cake. Choose to be happy first then when you get those things; you become happier.

Look at how easily contented children are. The latest toys might amuse them for a while but they do not need much to be happy at all. I am referring to the majority of the children. In my personal experience, my boys get really excited during Christmas when they receive the latest toys but that fascination does not last very long. They actually spend more time playing with the cheaper toys.

What I am getting at here is this: Life is simple; we are the ones who complicate things. No one puts those conditions on us; no one is saying:”You cannot be happy until you buy the latest Audi.” We are the barrier to our own happiness. We keep putting up endless hurdles for ourselves to jump over. It is almost like we are telling ourselves that we are not worthy to be happy unless we meet the perceived expectations of others. We find it hard to believe that all it takes to be happy is to simply choose it.

Have a think about this today; what are the simple joys in your life? There should be many – like having a nap on a lazy afternoon, or a casual chill out day with a close friend. Then ask yourself this: What is it that you really want out of your life? If your answer is ‘I want to be happy’, then just choose to be happy already. If your answer is:’I want to be rich”; then don’t complain that you don’t have a life and you are not happy.

Be clear about what you want! Don’t confuse one with the other. All goals should independent of each other; linking or lumping them together will complicate matters and confuse you.  You can aim to be happy and have the Audi at the same time but you can be happy before you get your dream car. Hope I got my message across to you without confusing you too much!

 


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