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Maintaining Objectivity

on October 20, 2012

As parents, it is absolutely normal to see our children in our own special way; because they are very special to us! A word of caution here; don’t overlook their faults. Treating their faults mildly is not helping them; instead you could be creating a bigger monster!

What started off as cute when young can very quickly become annoying as they grow older. And it is very important for parents to be aware of where these behaviours are heading. Take for example, confidence; every parent’s wish is for their children to be confident so that they have the guts to achieve their dreams. So, we try to boost their confidence whenever we can. We give them positive feedback and reinforce positive behaviour. Hopefully, over time these tactics work and we have a confident child. Here is the tricky part, some children might take this a step further and become boastful and arrogant.

At this point it will take a parent with a keen and objective eye to pick this up. There’s a fine line between being confident and arrogant; and we need to decide which direction we want our children to be heading. Some parent embrace arrogance; while others prefer quiet confidence. It is a matter of preference, so take your pick. If you choice is quiet confidence, please read on. Otherwise, just keep feeding your child’s ego, that is the fastest way to keep feeding his/her arrogance.

The theme for today’s post is maintaining objectivity; my challenge to you as parents is to keep an open mind when viewing your children. Love them with all that you have and all that you can but stop once in a while and take off those rose-tinted glasses so that you can truly evaluate their development. You will be doing them a big favour by nipping bad attitudes and behaviours at the bud before it can take root and become a permanent bad habit. Do not view them through parent lens; use a projected view. See them as who they are going to be when they grow up and whether these traits will aid or cripple them in the future.

Trust me! It is much easier to mold them while they are young. and it is our duty as parents to do the best we can to equip our children with skills necessary for them to be successful in the near future.

I leave you with this today: ‘We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.’ –  Stacia Tauscher


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