Sophrosyne

How do you want to live your life?

Who are you really entertaining?

on October 25, 2012

Today’s post begins with a simple question about our own behaviour.

“You have to look inside and ask this question. Who are you trying to entertain? The audience or yourself?”

Part of creating our self-image is what experts call self presentation. By this, they mean to say that we behave in a certain manner to assert who we think we are or who we think others want us to be. Some people are able to stand firm and stay true to themselves; while others succumb to social/peer pressure and become who they think society wants them to be.

I have been on both sides and I must say that although it takes practise and some guts to begin with. It is definitely more fun to stay true to yourself. But it entails a lot of self-awareness and self-love. Lucky for us, it is a habit that we can form. Here are some of the steps you can take if you are ready to take that step to self acceptance and possibly more resistance from people (at the beginning).

1) Accept that you cannot please everyone.

2) Accept that you alone are responsible for your own happiness.

3) What you think others want you to be may not be true; might be something you impose on yourself.

4) Not everyone needs to like you; just like you do not like everyone that you meet.

I reckon that these 4 points are a good start and it took me many years to be good at them. However if you are happy already; then don’t change anything! If not, then it is up to you to take that step. There is no right or wrong; but there is happy and unhappy.

Have a great day!

 


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