Sophrosyne

How do you want to live your life?

on November 1, 2012

It’s the first day of November; so instead of the me posting about my observations, today I am going to pose you a question.

‘What would you rather? Regret something you have done? Or something that you haven’t?’

This is the type of question people ask themselves before the beginning of a new year so that they can start a whole list of new year resolutions that many do not keep in the end. I chose to bring this question 2 months ahead because the way you choose your answer is going to change your life. And new behaviour needs time to take root and getting used to. So, it’s safer to start now so that it can be carried forward into the new year!

Needless to say; my answer to this question will be: I would rather regret something that I have done because I am the sort who needs to know. Put another way, I would rather die trying than not knowing. Up to now, I have done many things that many in my position would have regretted ten times over. Lucky for me, I have survived through it all to learn that things happen for a reason. If I have not done what I did then; I would not be where I am right now. Therefore, I stand by the ‘regret what I did’ side.

Nothing is worse than to regret something you haven’t done. Many times when the opportunity passes you by; it will never return again. So, I would rather leap first then worry about the safety net. Rather than stay hanging and looking out but never to experience the exhilaration of freedom.

Lucky for all of us, we all have choices ( I am constantly reminded by my husband every time I whine about doing things that I do not like; moaning about not having any choice but to do it that we all have a choice. It is whether we want to exercise that choice or not). Like I said earlier in this post, the way you answer this question can tell you alot about how you are living your life. There is no right or wrong answer, of course. However, there is happy and unhappy. If you are happy to play it safe; by all means stay there. It is working for you, then why change?

But if this question tugs at your heartstrings; leaving a bitter taste in your mouth. Then ask yourself if it is time to make a change. Remember this though, changes takes time, even if you are the one who wants that change. Your mind and body runs on auto-pilot most of the time, doing what it thinks is best for you. So, it does struggle abit when you want to take over the driver seat. But a little of persistence should do it.

My intention for today is to create an awareness for you; crack open your inner self and have a peek. Hopefully this can help you understand you better. If your inner desire matches your current behaviour, this exercise should help you reaffirm who you are and set a stronger foundation. If there are some discrepancies; which is very common, then decide if what you are doing is working out for you. Remember, let your happiness level guide you in whatever choices you make. Happiness do not necessarily translate to only doing things for yourself. It means that whatever you have chosen to do leaves you with a sense of contentment.

Enough said….Start pondering when you are ready….


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