Sophrosyne

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Delicious Ambiguity

on November 13, 2012

Read this quote today and really loved it:

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I learned that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing. Having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it. Without knowing what is going to happen next…DELICIOUS AMBIGUITY…” – Gilda Radner

How beautifully phrased! I daresay the first sentence would describe most of our inner desires. We all want to have the perfect and happiest ending. In our quest to reach the end, we forgot to enjoy our lives during the process. The process is where we spent most of the time; yet we fail to see the importance of enjoying every moment of it.

The other irony is this; we think we know our perfect ending…but do we?? Human beings are hard to satisfy. Think back of a time when you tell yourself; after I achieve this, I will be happy. Then, after you got there, hmm… not quite enough to keep you happy. You are off looking for the next challenge that promises you the elusive ‘final happiness’. After you understand and accept that we have a greedy nature; it will be much easier to understand that since we cannot be satisfied. Reaching our goals every time does not guarantee happiness; then let’s not wait to reach the end to be happy, because getting there does not mean we will definitely be happy. So, might as well be happy now!

In essence, the quote is a reminder that it is okay to not have absolute control of our lives. And if we are honest with ourselves; we actually have very limited control anyway. We can only control certain things that only involve ourselves and that’s it! Rather than engage with a power struggle with fate; we can choose to go with the flow. Make the best decisions within the given space. Be brave, because it does take a lot of guts to just live. I’m not saying, don’t plan. I’m saying; please continue to plan but if life throws you off-track; try to not resist it. I truly believe that we are placed in situations where we can always benefit/learn from, and we are there because we are supposed to. When we get caught up with the whys and frustrations, we lose the ability to see the true potential of the situation.

Again, I need to emphasis that being able to articulate all these does not mean that I find it easy or practise what I preach all the time. But at least I am aware of it and I do try to walk this talk. Life is too short to wait to be happy at the end. There is so much to be grateful for; and that my friends, is the key to authentic happiness… a grateful heart. But alas, our hearts are easily tempted and treacherous, that is why we have to keep reminding it to be content and grateful for all that we have, right here and now.

 


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