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The danger of not doing….

on November 19, 2012

I was planning to write a post on something else this morning; then I read something that a friend had posted on Facebook and thought to myself: ‘This message is more important that my original one.’

“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything. ” – Sri Aryani

This message can be applied in many situations; for example, you see someone being bullied or being treated unfairly. Do you do something? Or do you just walk away. My personal take on this: please, only do what you can in the given situation without putting yourself in harm’s way.

If you think about this statement by Sri, does it not make perfect sense to you? The message you give to the person exhibiting bad behaviour by not stopping them is this: you are agreeing with their behaviour, and you are condoning whatever they are doing. Over time, their little actions will continue to escalate if no one bothers to make the effort to stop them.

This brought me back to a movie I was watching yesterday: ‘Captain America – The first Avenger’. I avoided this movie because I kept thinking it was really lame. He doesn’t have the technology like Ironman nor was he born with super powers like Superman. Just another American comic character created just because they can. My husband insisted that I watch it and said that I would appreciate the idea behind it. I must say that I did enjoy it and I now know the meaning behind it all. For those of you who have not seen this movie; in a nutshell, it is about how a guy who was born with multiple physical limitations finally got his wish to join the army to serve his country during the world war. Many cadets were chosen to be part of ‘the experiment’ but he was ultimately chosen because of his character. He never backed down from bullies and always stood up for what he believed in. It was his kindness and compassion for humankind that led him to where he wanted to be.

That is the message I hope to bring across to you today; allow compassion to guide you in your actions. I am not saying get out there and stand up against everything you feel is unfair. Have the wisdom to know when you can or cannot interfere with something and remember that if you are trying to fight someone’s fight for them; make sure that they did need your help.

It is very important to differentiate between helping someone and satisfying your ego. Your sense of righteousness should be guided and checked all the time by your compassion for others. In this way, you reduce your risk of making everything about you. It is a very common pitfall of many people who started off just trying to help others. But when things do not go the way they planned; they get all upset because it didn’t work out the way they wanted. Remember this, when you are helping others, it is about them, not you.

I leave you with this final thought: Every time you walk away from a oppportunity to right an injustice; you are giving out 2 messages. To the bully, you are saying: I agree with your actions, please keep it up. To the victim, you are saying: I don’t care what you have done to deserve this treatment, but you deserved it.

Oh yes, one more thing, if everyone cared just a little bit more; the world would be a much better place! Stop worrying about how small a singular effort is, isn’t the ocean made up of many tiny droplets?




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