How do you want to live your life?

Attitude towards life: part 2

on November 27, 2012

Today’s post continues on from yesterday: in case you need a reminder, this was the quote that was provided for reflection:

‘Exercise to be fit, not skinny. Eat to nourish your body and always ignore the haters, doubters & unhealthy examples that were once feeding you. You are worth more than you realise.’

If you have taken the time to consider these few sentences, please read on, if not, do take a few minutes to think about whether or not you agree with this concept and how it can affect you.

Today, I am going to spend some time sharing with you my humble view regarding this quote.

Recently, after years of yo-yo dieting, I came to a realisation. Yes, it would be nice to look the way I desire but I did once look the way I wanted to but I never appreciated it! I still thought I was fat. It was until recently when I looked at some old photos that I realised that I was not as fat as I thought and I actually looked like what I wanted to! And as I grew older, my body is not as fit as it used to. Getting it to do some things is already challenging. I also observed that there are many people my age who did not bother to maintain the fitness level of their body and as a result, have many aches and pains. My real inspiration came from our swimming coach, Raymond, who is a retired life guard. He loves to exercise and he is so fit! Like I mentioned before, the body is a piece of machinery; you need to take good care of it. And over the years, there will be wear and tear that cannot be repaired. But if you take good care of it, it will serve you well for a longer period of time.

So, these days I no longer chase after the perfect and  slim body. I choose to achieve a functional body. I may not look as fabulous as I would like to, but I know that I still have the fitness level to keep up with my children, and that I can still do what I want to do! Therefore, I choose fitness over looks; I want to be able to continue doing what I love to do for a long time.

As for my diet, I do try to eat mindfully, of course there are days when I feel like junk so I allow myself that. Try this for yourself if you do not believe me. If you eat mindfully, you will not eat half as much junk as you currently do. Eating mindfully means looking at your choice of food and ask yourself if that food actually nourishes your body. You have the answer. We often choose to ignore what we know. We know that fried chicken has limited nutritional value but we eat it because we anticipate that it will taste good. But if we take it a step further after considering if it has any nutritional value and think about how we used to feel after we ate fried chicken. We would recall that after eating it, we usually feel bloated and disgusted. Mindful eating helps us achieve a higher level of awareness about what we put into our bodies. Many of us, myself included are guilty of eating without thinking.

The next part of the quote talks about haters, doubters and bad examples that used to feed us. To me, I interpret these as people we meet or have in our lives that are toxic to us. They are the ones who make you doubt what you can achieve, they cannot be happy for you…in other words, you are not happy whenever they are around. It does not matter how they package their comments, the bottom line is you end up feeling like a loser every time you are around them. What I am suggesting to you is this: if it is possible, get rid of these people. You have no need for them. Instead, surround yourself with people who loves to be with you and can share your joys and success. I have my fair share of toxicity in my life and I am still working on eradicating them from my life. Might take a while but at least start. Don’t worry about burning bridges because they are not going to let you cross it anyway.

We often feel that it is good to network and maintain contacts but if it wears you out and you know there will not be any return, then cut it off. I have learnt the hard way that it is just not worth our time. Nothing is going to come out of it. You are better off focusing your energy on people who deserves it.

Ooh, I have been rambling on and on, I hope that I have provided a clearer explanation of the quote. But the choice is yours, if you are happy remaining where you are, then stay there. If you feel like you are in a rut or defeated, here is a good place to start. Remember there is no absolute solution but there is one thing for me that I am sure of: Be happy, choose to be happy, it is a choice, it does not happen by accident. With that, let’s end this serious post on a lighter note: I leave you with this:

‘I don’t regret burning bridges. I regret that some people weren’t on those bridges when I burnt them.’


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