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Easier to build them from young

on February 1, 2013

I have just began working at an organisation that works closely with at-risk adolescents. At-risk by their definition means that they have slipped through the cracks in Singapore’s education system either caused by family issues or various learning barriers. These 3 weeks have taught me a great deal. It has opened my eyes so clearly how much family support and influence can affect the future development of a child.

I daresay this to the parents out there; take the time to grow your children, it will be worth it! Everything you do can affect them in so many ways! Laziness and permissiveness is simply not an option! If you are a frequent visitor to my webpage, you should be well acquainted to my writing style. I usually allow my readers to think and make choices for themselves. But these 3 weeks have changed me. I am not saying that these children are beyond repair. I only meant to point out that it would be much easier to do the right thing by them right from the beginning. If you feel that you are not cut out to be a fabulous parent, you are wrong. All it takes is a little bit more effort on your side. The very least you can do is to find a role model for your child.

Take the time, it will be worth it. And remember, always do the right thing by them. It is not about how your friends view you as a parent. It is about making the best decision for your child. Of course I am not condemning parents who needs to be at work and have limited time with their children. You will be surprised how little it takes to maintain a child. Not with toys or branded goods. Think in terms of a child, not as an adult. Spend quality time with them whenever you can, take time to teach them moral values. Like I said, if you feel that you are unable to do a good job, then look around for a role model other than your domestic helper. Every ounce of effort you put in now will count towards that adult in the future. Whether or not he will respect himself and others depends so much on the actions you take today!

I apologise for being so pushy in this post. I cannot help but feel pain for these children. They did not ask to be brought into this world. For whatever reason they were, they were not taken care of as well as they should have been. But it is never too late. I met many people who contributed to who I am today. If not for what I had to go through when I was younger, I would not be who I am today. There is always 2 sides to a coin. I am just hoping to pass on this message, some of us are lucky enough to meet people who will inspire us and change our lives. But what about the ones who are not as lucky? Maybe….just maybe, it could have been avoided if proper loving guidance have been given while they were younger?

In case you don’t know where to start, begin here:

What children need most…Love, Respect, to have fun, to be seen, to be listened to, your presence, a hero, a fostered sense of wonder, lots of hugs, to play, the chance to make mistakes; encouragement to try again, room to grow dreams, to be told YES! to be trusted, affection, guidance.”


what children need

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